I am a mother of five kids. Two of them are biological, while the other three are adopted. My husband and I decided to adopt for the first time when I did not think that I could bear a child. We had been married for seven years at the time, but no fertility method was working. So, we decided to ask orphanages about the possibility of adopting a baby.
That’s when we found Michael, our first son. I fell in love with his curly hair and big eyes as soon as I saw him, and the adoption process started right away. Miraculously, a year after that, I got pregnant with twins, so my husband and I felt very blessed.
A couple of years later, though, the head of the same orphanage where we got Michael contacted us. She commended us first for raising the boy fantastically and then talked about twin babies who were left outside their gate. She said, “It would be incredible if we could find a home for the two of them.” After a long conversation with my husband, we decided to drive down to the orphanage. Given the number of kids that I mentioned above, well, you know that we took those babies in and cared for them like our own.
Now, the story of Michael and the young twins is not rare. There are plenty of abandoned, abused, or orphaned children across the globe who need to love and feel loved. Thus, as someone who has adopted three kids, I worry about the foster care system worldwide, especially now that there is a coronavirus outbreak.
Here are some things I have learned.
Fewer Kids May Get Adopted Legally
Adoption sounds like an easy task for outsiders, but that’s not true at all. Besides your lack of interest in hurting the child in any way, the judges determine if you can handle another kid financially.
Because of the lockdown, though, a high number of individuals cannot go to work. Even if someone has savings, it may not suffice to pay the bills, get groceries, and hire a lawyer to process the adoption papers. The result is that the legal adoption comes to a halt and may only resume when everything goes back to normal again.
More Parents Have Been Reported For Child Abuse
The lockdown that prevails in many countries has put adults in an awful place, mentally speaking. Being cooped up in the same house for days can make you cranky or snappy. If a person has some form of addiction, anger management problem, or other issues, it is not surprising for them to become violent towards the children under their care. It explains the rise of child abuse cases everywhere and pushes the court to deny such people’s requests to adopt kids.
The Silver Lining: Deserving Parents In Canada Don’t Need To Wait For The End Of Lockdown Before Getting The Adoption Papers Approved By The Court
I read a touching article the other day about a Canadian couple who were trying to adopt a baby girl. Their court appearance got postponed due to the lockdown, but the kind judge allowed them to do everything through a video conference. Before the call ended, therefore, the baby girl became their daughter legally.
My research is admittedly not extensive enough to know if the other countries intend to follow suit. However, this new process ensures that deserving parents need not wait any longer before their adoption papers get signed by a judge. The more it happens, the more kids can grow up in a nurturing home.
It breaks my heart as a parent to know that there are children in the world who need to wait longer before getting adopted due to COVID-19. It pains me more, though, that some foster parents turn violent because of the situation. The latter leaves the child hurt and homeless.
My only prayer at this point is that the foster care system in every part of the globe will be as good as the one in Canada. This way, the kids and their adoptive parents can all live blissfully.